Audrey Grider, MS, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT-94674
Adults • Adolescents • Children • Couples • Families • Groups
The emotional pain caused by relationship or family issues can overwhelm us. It’s easy to get caught up in a familiar dance of negativity that often leads to misunderstandings, hurt feelings, anger, and damaged relationships. The truth is that most of the time, we focus on the day to day problems, when these are actually a symptom of deeper pain that may have started long before the relationship.
I have found that when we explore the “story behind the story,” we are more likely to get to the root of the problem, with a greater chance of success in counseling. Based on my work with my clients, as well as my specialized training, I have seen how it can help to clear the emotional triggers that are attached to your underlying issues and memories. Your problems may have originated in childhood or adolescence, or they may be the result of recent experiences. Some of the ways that this can happen are emotional, physical or sexual abuse, domestic violence, crime victimization, illness, loss, grief, difficult family, addiction, combat, and bullying.
Troubling experiences affect us in many ways, and can lead to anger, anxiety, sadness, guilt, shame, low self-esteem, and more. You may feel that you don’t know where to go in life, or you may have lost your sense of your identity. You might be thinking, “I’m not sure what to do next” or “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”
I take a holistic approach to psychotherapy that integrates various counseling techniques. Because each of us is a unified system, our mind, body, emotions, and spiritual connections are all interwoven. Current studies show us that we need to focus on all of these parts as we work toward increased well-being.
While talk therapy will be the foundation of your counseling with me, we may decide to do guided visualization and meditation, mind-body work, therapeutic art or other expressive activities. These therapies use less talk, and they allow us to tap into emotions and thoughts on several levels at the same time. The result is that you can experience very profound insights that may come to you more slowly when therapy is limited to discussion.
Research has shown that EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is one of the most effective ways to overcome past trauma, as well as cope with current difficulties. Regardless of whether you have experienced one big trauma, or chronic stress, the devastating effects can be similar. I am a trauma specialist trained in EMDR, which is an internationally recognized trauma treatment. I received this training through EMDRIA, an organization that provides the highest level of instruction in this counseling technique.
I am also certified in equine facilitated psychotherapy through EAGALA (Equine Assisted Growth and Learning Association). As prey animals and in order to survive, horses are naturally intuitive and sensitive to their environment, and they are always honest in their communications. These characteristics makes them great therapy partners, as they are able to pick up on our emotional state and “stuff,” and reflect it in their behaviors. In the horse arena, we also explore metaphor and symbols, which can become part of a deeply heartfelt therapeutic experience. Beyond this, there is something special about connecting with these beautiful and powerful animals that can be very healing – often with less talk. I have seen many of my clients gain incredible insights during their sessions. My equine facilitated psychotherapy services are offered at various locations in Orange County.
You want to talk to somebody who will listen with an open mind, and who can provide guidance and emotional safety through an authentic therapeutic relationship. You can begin to live with more meaning, purpose, peace, and fulfillment, and I am here to listen.